The following NSPCC guide ‘Talking PANTS’ has been created to give important messages to children between the ages of 4-11 years old about their body and what to do if they’re made to feel worried or uncomfortable.
PANTS! Learn the underwear rule. Talk PANTS and you’ve got it covered!
P rivates are private
A lways remember your body belongs to you
N o means no
T alk about secrets that upset you
S peak up, someone can help
P – Privates are private. Parts of your body covered by underwear are private. No one should ask to see, or touch them. Sometimes doctors, nurses or family members might have to. But they should always explain why, and ask if it’s OK first. No one should ask you to touch or look at parts of their body that are covered by underwear.
A – Always remember your body belongs to you. It’s your body, no one else’s. No one should ever make you do things that make you feel embarrassed or uncomfortable. If anyone ask to see or tries to touch you underneath your underwear, say ‘No’ and tell an adult you trust and like to speak to.
N – no means no. You have the right to say ‘no’ – even to a family member or someone you love. You’re in control of your body and the most important thing is how YOU feel. If you want to say ‘No’ it’s your choice.
T – Talk about secrets that upset you. There are good secrets and bad secrets. Good secrets are things like surprise parties or presents for other people. Bad secrets make you feel sad, worried or frightened. You should tell an adult you trust about a bad secret straight away.
S – Speak up, someone can help. Talk about stuff that makes you worried or upset. An adult you trust will listen, and be able to help. It doesn’t have to be a family member. It can be a teacher or a friend’s parent – or ChildLine. ChildLine: 0800 1111
More information can be found at: nspcc.org.uk/pants
Printed guides are available from the school office (see FLO) or on the NSPCC website above.